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Ten Steps to Be Your Wonderful Self

So often when I was around my mom I was there when she was putting on her “face.” She would lament her wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles. My sister and I would be surprised at how much she would spend on products to “fix” these things. When she passed she was 89. Such an amazing life she lived, too! But I remember clearly one time when she was trying to put on mascara and fussing about her imperfections and I said, “Mom, you know no one notices that stuff but you. All we see is how great you are and how much we all want to be around you.” And that was the absolute truth! My mom was an Auntie Mame (those of you my age will remember who that was), colorful and fun and funny. And even passing at 89 years old I still miss her every single day.

I am at that same place now, well, only 25 years younger. But don’t we all look in a mirror and see only imperfections? Why is that? It may be because we have this internal expectation to be something other than what we are. And who sets those expectations? It’s another example of keeping up with the Joneses, don’t you think? I am going to see family this weekend and I can’t wait! And since I have a new, smaller car I am even more careful about how I pack. One of those expectations also includes how you dress. Who exactly puts the limit on that? It’s enough to drive a person crazy!

So following are ten life lessons from the iconic Iris Apfel (Mattel made a Barbie of her in 2018!) that I am compelled to share:

  1. Don’t obsess over your age. “You’re here. Embrace it. …Put your experience to work.”
  2. Pick a person who celebrates your successes. Find someone who encourages you and offers “unwavering support.”
  3. When something excites you, go for it. “I just feel things in my gut and I do them. If something sounds exciting and interesting I do it — and then I worry about it later.”
  4. To stay young you have to feel young. “Having a sense of wonder, a sense of humor, and a sense of curiosity — these are my tonic…”
  5. Care about your own opinion above anyone else’s. “If you have to be all things to all people, you end up being ‘nothin’ to nobody.”
  6. But don’t isolate yourself either. “…But if you don’t try to be part of things, forget it. That’s when your originality is going to work against you. Fit in first and then step out.”
  7. Money doesn’t buy success. “If you’re happy, have found love, are surrounded by good people, doing what you like and giving back to others, that’s success.”
  8. Style is not about spending money. “It’s not what you wear but how you wear it.”
  9. Start new endeavors with one small step. “You only fail if you do not try,” says Apfel.
  10. Don’t pretend you are younger than you are. “There’s nothing wrong with wrinkles. When you’re older, trying to look years younger is foolish, and you’re not fooling anyone. When you’re seventy-five and you get a face-lift, nobody is going to think you are thirty,” she says.”

There you have it. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Go YOU!

Essential Oils: I still LOVE and will continue to promote Young Living Essential Oils! If you are new to essential oils, I highly recommend. And I think when you check out the number of companies that are out there you will agree that Young Living is really the best!

This lovely blend of bitter orange, black spruce, and ylang ylang will awaken your senses. “Present Time helps you focus on the here and now, so you can get beyond the past and move forward.”

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A Junket in New Mexico

While in Ruidoso, New Mexico for the last few weeks (and only accountable to myself, hehe) I decided to take a little day trip. The quaint town of Carrizozo is also located in Lincoln County about 30 miles from Ruidoso. According to Wikipedia, Carrizozo is named for the abundance of a reed grass that grows there. It was a thriving community in the early 1900s until the decline of the railroad. It is still well known for the Valley of Fires which, being 1500 years old and 40 miles long, is said to be the “youngest” lava flow in the United States.

And while there wasn’t much going on in Carrizozo in January (duh), I did discover a unique “artist’s den” there. I veered off of historic 12th street and found what looked like a glass recycling area.

Upon closer inspection I realized that this was actually a part of a very interesting conglomeration of artwork. I met and talked to “Mike”, the resident artist, who purchased the property and the abandoned hotel and turned the bottom floor of the hotel into his woodworking shop. I was fortunate to get a tour of the entire eclectic layout that he works on daily. Inspirational!

Deciding to make the trip on that cold January day turned out to be quite enlightening. My mantra for 2021: Every junket may not pay off in the sense of a great adventure, but how will you know if you don’t go?

Decide to be adventurous!

Essential Oils: I still LOVE and will continue to promote Young Living Essential Oils! If you are new to essential oils, I highly recommend. And I think when you check out the number of companies that are out there you will agree that Young Living is really the best!

Valerian has a wonderful earthy aroma that is calming and relaxing. Add to a bath to combat restlessness, tension and muscle aches. Great diffused by itself!

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What are YOU Going To Do?

I thought long and hard about going back to teaching at the community college this semester. I just celebrated my 64th birthday (!) and am just not “feeling it” like I used to. And then, BAM!, Covid! That pretty well sealed the deal right there. Rick was not in complete agreement, but he said okay. A bit later he asked, “So what ARE you going to do?” I can understand that it’s a little disconcerting for him to still be working and me to be home anxiously awaiting my next Amazon delivery. Haha! He also says that people “need a reason to get up in the morning.” He is not ready to retire. And while his job is challenging he likes the challenges. It keeps his brain functioning on a higher level.

Having this time off has made me focus on what I want to do in the near future. I enjoy the freedom of not having to be anywhere at a given time. I also like not grading papers! Ha! But–now what? I do love to blog, and need to be more disciplined in that. And I appreciate keeping myself in shape by walking and doing yoga. However, I hesitate to join a group like Habitat for Humanity or volunteering at the schools because I selfishly don’t want to be COMMITTED. So I have taken on the task of publishing my neighborhood newsletter! We’ve needed one, and who better to do it than a retired English teacher? It has been very well received.

So my question to you is–what do YOU want to do? Is there something out there that you’ve been holding yourself back from doing? We went out with friends the other night and the newsletter came up. My friend says, “you have a blog and you’re putting together the neighborhood newsletter? I’m not doing anything!” We laughed and that made me think of so many retirees that haven’t found a purpose. Now, there is nothing wrong with just living day to day, but I feel that each person has something to offer. It’s sad to me that most people don’t take advantage of it! One friend knits octopi for premies. What an awesome gift from her for those babies! Another retired couple goes on mission trips for their church (well, they did before Covid!). I applaud them!

Everyone has skills. You may not think you do, but you do! I used to tell my students that everyone is not good at everything, but everyone is good at SOMETHING. Maybe you should share your “something.” Is it about time?

Essential Oils: I still LOVE and will continue to promote Young Living Essential Oils! Let’s look at some amazing blends.

From the Young Living website: “Gathering™ essential oil blend features oils that invite you to overcome the chaotic energy of everyday life and keeps you on the path to higher achievement. This blend can help bring people together on an emotional and spiritual level for greater connection.” Enjoy this blend of lavender, Northern Lights Black Spruce, geranium, frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, ylang ylang, vetiver, cinnamon bark and rose. Delightful!