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Ten Steps to Be Your Wonderful Self

So often when I was around my mom I was there when she was putting on her “face.” She would lament her wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles. My sister and I would be surprised at how much she would spend on products to “fix” these things. When she passed she was 89. Such an amazing life she lived, too! But I remember clearly one time when she was trying to put on mascara and fussing about her imperfections and I said, “Mom, you know no one notices that stuff but you. All we see is how great you are and how much we all want to be around you.” And that was the absolute truth! My mom was an Auntie Mame (those of you my age will remember who that was), colorful and fun and funny. And even passing at 89 years old I still miss her every single day.

I am at that same place now, well, only 25 years younger. But don’t we all look in a mirror and see only imperfections? Why is that? It may be because we have this internal expectation to be something other than what we are. And who sets those expectations? It’s another example of keeping up with the Joneses, don’t you think? I am going to see family this weekend and I can’t wait! And since I have a new, smaller car I am even more careful about how I pack. One of those expectations also includes how you dress. Who exactly puts the limit on that? It’s enough to drive a person crazy!

So following are ten life lessons from the iconic Iris Apfel (Mattel made a Barbie of her in 2018!) that I am compelled to share:

  1. Don’t obsess over your age. “You’re here. Embrace it. …Put your experience to work.”
  2. Pick a person who celebrates your successes. Find someone who encourages you and offers “unwavering support.”
  3. When something excites you, go for it. “I just feel things in my gut and I do them. If something sounds exciting and interesting I do it — and then I worry about it later.”
  4. To stay young you have to feel young. “Having a sense of wonder, a sense of humor, and a sense of curiosity — these are my tonic…”
  5. Care about your own opinion above anyone else’s. “If you have to be all things to all people, you end up being ‘nothin’ to nobody.”
  6. But don’t isolate yourself either. “…But if you don’t try to be part of things, forget it. That’s when your originality is going to work against you. Fit in first and then step out.”
  7. Money doesn’t buy success. “If you’re happy, have found love, are surrounded by good people, doing what you like and giving back to others, that’s success.”
  8. Style is not about spending money. “It’s not what you wear but how you wear it.”
  9. Start new endeavors with one small step. “You only fail if you do not try,” says Apfel.
  10. Don’t pretend you are younger than you are. “There’s nothing wrong with wrinkles. When you’re older, trying to look years younger is foolish, and you’re not fooling anyone. When you’re seventy-five and you get a face-lift, nobody is going to think you are thirty,” she says.”

There you have it. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Go YOU!

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This lovely blend of bitter orange, black spruce, and ylang ylang will awaken your senses. “Present Time helps you focus on the here and now, so you can get beyond the past and move forward.”

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Goals To Keep You Moving Forward

We’re halfway through January and I am focused on changing my mindset. Maybe not for the whole year; I think baby steps are called for here! 2020 was such a…is there a way to describe it that’s fit for a G rated audience? I think not (but then maybe that’s just my military upbringing. Cursing was part of the norm). It was a mess and we (and I really mean ME) just decided to survive it.

But the new year is meant for all of us to THRIVE! Merriam Webster defines this word as: 1) to grow vigorously; flourish, 2) to gain in wealth or possessions; prosper and 3) to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances. I’ve found my WORD! Sometimes it’s so hard to see past the difficulties you are presently dealing with that they inadvertently bog you down. If you don’t replace these thoughts with better ones you tend to get into an endless cycle, kind of like that hamster on the wheel that’s not going anywhere! I don’t want to be like that.

But I have to say that it also drives me crazy when I decide to work on myself and there’s my husband Rick, still content (or seems to be) with how things are. Why don’t guys worry about the things women do?

  • losing weight; to them it means cutting out ice cream! Grrrr.
  • dressing nice for no reason (mine particularly doesn’t worry about his clothes since he does field work and most days doesn’t see anyone)
  • exercising (“you don’t know how much I walk every day”. Seriously?!)
  • eating right (“I had a salad a week ago”)

It’s a waste of time to try and figure why GOALS are not important to him (or at least he doesn’t share them with me). So here are my goals for the next few months:

  • Since elective surgeries are not happening because of Covid-19, my knee surgery will have to wait. Instead of NOT walking, I will wrap my knee when walking long distances and do modified squats
  • yoga for stretching and helping to focus
  • Limit portions; you can split food choices with your partner and still have a filling meal!
  • Add more fruit to my diet. In the afternoon I usually crave salty things, so I just need to have fruit available to change that craving.
  • Listen to an audiobook or relaxing music to stop the constant noise in my head
  • Use my essential oils more frequently, such as on my body at pulse points and in the bath
  • Write with a favorite pen. Say what you will, but having a favorite writing instrument makes you want to write!

I’ve mentioned James Clear before and his Atomic Habits book. I’m especially fond of his journal that has you list small accomplishments each day. Just a few words and you’re done! When you are in the mood you can journal to get your feelings out. Like I used to tell my students, if you’re going to fall, fall forward! Let’s keep up the good work and make it a great month–and then a great year!

Bergamot has a citrus scented aroma so start your morning diffusing this one! It’s uplifting, sweet and relaxing. It also has wonderful skin cleansing properties!

Essential Oils: I still LOVE and will continue to promote Young Living Essential Oils! If you are new to essential oils, I highly recommend. And I think when you check out the number of companies that are out there you will agree that Young Living is really the best!

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Is It Time To Move On?

It’s finally 2021! Who hasn’t been looking forward to seeing 2020 in their rear view mirror? The new year brings changes, or we hope it will. My home picture on the blog needs to change I guess. My sweet little Mia passed 6 months ago now. She was such a fun little dog and was always ready to go anywhere I went! Why do we hold onto things that we need to change?

So let’s talk about GOALS. I have always been active, so maybe increasing my activities is worth pursuing (except it’s time for a new knee, but that’s for another blog). But I think where my growth needs to be is in my artistic endeavors. In my brain (is it because I’m a Virgo and we love to be organized?) I’ve always felt that being “busy” equals time well spent. Anyone else feel the same way? My daughter Allison is so creative. Now that I think about it, is she naturally creative, or does she work at it? We all tend to think that we are or are not good at some things, when really all it is is not taking the time to actually work on things out of your comfort zone! When we were together over the holidays she brought a box of pens, tablets, and general art accessories so she could perfect her crafts. So I have put on my list of Things To Do drawing, coloring and maybe even learning to paint with water colors! I just love water colors. Maybe a class??

Another activity that is on the top of my list is taking photos with my GOOD camera, and not just with my phone. My husband Rick reminded me that I seldom use it. And it’s not that it is difficult; it is linked to my phone and laptop so I can upload (download?) better quality pictures. It’s just getting out of the other HABIT (aka that annoying “comfort zone”) of using my phone, which needs an upgrade anyway. 2020 didn’t help, because not only did I not travel, but not dressing up means unflattering photos. But I will adjust and make it happen in 2021!

Finally, now that I am retired, I really want to take advantage of my free time. I LOVE getting outdoors, so I need to expand where I want to go, even if it’s just closer to home (just until I can get on a cruise ship! Boy am I anxious about that!) I’ve already started my 2021 list of Places to Explore. And bad knee be #$*@%! I can’t wait until my situation is 100%, and neither should you! It’s time to take action, no matter what your particular action is. Don’t you agree? Let’s stop making silly excuses and make our little changes. Who’s with me?

Essential Oils: I still LOVE and will continue to promote Young Living Essential Oils! If you are new to essential oils, I highly recommend. And I think when you check out the number of companies that are out there you will agree that Young Living is really the best!

One of my favorites has always been Eucalyptus Radiata. It has such a soothing and uplifting aroma that I diffuse it often (men seem to especially like it for its masculine fragrance). It’s also a favorite in salons and spas! Eucalyptus can also be used topically, on the chest or back, to aid in bronchial issues. Another trick straight from the website: Create a DIY room-refreshing spray with Eucalyptus Radiata to combat stale odors. Win win!

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