So often when I was around my mom I was there when she was putting on her “face.” She would lament her wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles. My sister and I would be surprised at how much she would spend on products to “fix” these things. When she passed she was 89. Such an amazing life she lived, too! But I remember clearly one time when she was trying to put on mascara and fussing about her imperfections and I said, “Mom, you know no one notices that stuff but you. All we see is how great you are and how much we all want to be around you.” And that was the absolute truth! My mom was an Auntie Mame (those of you my age will remember who that was), colorful and fun and funny. And even passing at 89 years old I still miss her every single day.
I am at that same place now, well, only 25 years younger. But don’t we all look in a mirror and see only imperfections? Why is that? It may be because we have this internal expectation to be something other than what we are. And who sets those expectations? It’s another example of keeping up with the Joneses, don’t you think? I am going to see family this weekend and I can’t wait! And since I have a new, smaller car I am even more careful about how I pack. One of those expectations also includes how you dress. Who exactly puts the limit on that? It’s enough to drive a person crazy!
So following are ten life lessons from the iconic Iris Apfel (Mattel made a Barbie of her in 2018!) that I am compelled to share:
- Don’t obsess over your age. “You’re here. Embrace it. …Put your experience to work.”
- Pick a person who celebrates your successes. Find someone who encourages you and offers “unwavering support.”
- When something excites you, go for it. “I just feel things in my gut and I do them. If something sounds exciting and interesting I do it — and then I worry about it later.”
- To stay young you have to feel young. “Having a sense of wonder, a sense of humor, and a sense of curiosity — these are my tonic…”
- Care about your own opinion above anyone else’s. “If you have to be all things to all people, you end up being ‘nothin’ to nobody.”
- But don’t isolate yourself either. “…But if you don’t try to be part of things, forget it. That’s when your originality is going to work against you. Fit in first and then step out.”
- Money doesn’t buy success. “If you’re happy, have found love, are surrounded by good people, doing what you like and giving back to others, that’s success.”
- Style is not about spending money. “It’s not what you wear but how you wear it.”
- Start new endeavors with one small step. “You only fail if you do not try,” says Apfel.
- Don’t pretend you are younger than you are. “There’s nothing wrong with wrinkles. When you’re older, trying to look years younger is foolish, and you’re not fooling anyone. When you’re seventy-five and you get a face-lift, nobody is going to think you are thirty,” she says.”
There you have it. Couldn’t have said it better myself. Go YOU!
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